My last post referenced Diane Gossen's pamphlet "5 positions of Control." Gossen notes there are 5 methods people attempt to control each other. Do any of these methods look familiar in your teaching practices. Which one do you use most? Are you being the teacher you want to be?
In no particular order:
1. Punisher: This person may use anger (shouting) , criticism, humiliation, or corporal punishment. Ex. Adult says, "Do this or else!"
2. Guilter: This person uses silence, withdrawal of approval, or guilting remarks. Adult says. "You should have known better."
3. Buddy: Adult says, "Do it for me."
4. Monitor: This person uses stimulus-response discipline meting out consequences, positive and negative. The person disciplined does learn by the approach. He/she learns that society does have rules and limits. Eventually the recipient will find ways to get around the system or will decide to be unreceptive to the rewards or consequences. Monitor says, "You have earned 10 check marks," or "You have lost 15 minutes of free time."
5. Manager: This person knows how to do everything the monitor does and will use that approach as a fall back position. However, the recipient of this approach is asked to work to figure out a solution. The emphasis is not on designing a consequence. The manager says, "What's your plan to fix it. When can you have it done?" The recipient is also asked to think about the kind of person they want to be. More manager questions include, "What do we believe? Do you believe it? If you believe it, do you want to fix it? If you do, then what does that say about you?" Every time one fixes a problem and ties it to the person one wants to be, there is less chance the person will reoffend. This approach is the Restitution approach.
It should be noted that the first 4 approaches to control are based on extrinsic motivation. The last one, manager, is an intrinsic approach because the person is motivated to fix his or her problems to become the person they want to be.
For further reading check out the Restitution website.